Dating tips for overweight women
If there's an attraction between us, you'll know it, and whatever desires that sparks, let's talk about them.Don't just assume I'm all in because I'm sex-positive, fat, and sometimes femme.I have experienced sexual assault and trauma in my life.A lot of fat women have -- the ACE scores study suggest that at least some cases of obesity are biologically related to childhood trauma -- but I don't need you to psychoanalyze me, to explain to me why I'm fat, or to try and "fix" me somehow. I got over guys who wanted to sleep with me but weren't willing to be seen in public with me a long time ago.As a non-single, fat, polyamorous woman, I can't tell you how often I've been questioned about my confidence, self-worth, who I am, and why I'm into what I'm into.
Dating today is a tricky business — whether you're looking for love online or off. Regardless of who you are, the journey that is dating and relationships can make you feel like you're running around in circles.
If I try to talk to you about fatphobia, about discrimination, about the challenges I face as a fat woman in the world, please don't try to comfort me by telling me people don't mean it, that maybe I'm misreading the situation, the the world isn't out to get me.
Whether or not fat hatred is malicious, it's still harmful.
They often come into a relationship believing that my past partners have been abusive or unfaithful, or that my current partner isn't interested in sex and that's why we're poly.
Basically, that he's arrived to save me from my terrible, sad, fat life.
And don't invalidate my experiences as a fat woman.